Bear with me. Things are about to get salty.
So Eva refuses to take a shit. As in, she won't. At all. With the exception of a suppository that it took two adults to wrestle into her yesterday (all while I was having the worst case of back spasms / Braxton-Hicks that I've ever had), it has been eight days. EIGHT DAYS, people. And this is with a generous dose of Miralax every single morning.
So now, we're in this place where she won't eat (how could she?), and after about 5 minutes of exercise, she bursts into tears and demands to be held and rocked, most likely because she's feeling the urge to go and she's so freaked out by it.
Part of me? Part of me is this hormonal mess anyway because I just culled about 90% of her baby clothes to consign/give away/toss, and I hate seeing her in so much distress.
The other part? The other part is this raging bitch a la Grendel's mother that just wants her to TAKE A SHIT, ALREADY, BECAUSE YOU'LL FEEL SO MUCH BETTER AND OH MY GOD IT IS KILLING MY BACK TO BE CARRYING YOU.
So. Advice? What the flipping flip would you do about this? If it's this bad now, I cannot freaking WAIT until I'm sleepless with a newborn and healing from surgery and fighting thrush and ALSO have a toddler withholding her weight in excrement.
*sob*
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Oh girl, I feel you. Simon started holding his poop when he was about age 2, and the drama continued till he was about 3. We had to start a regimen of straight prune juice in a sippy cup in the morning, with a dose of milk of magnesia every night (the mint kind. we called it his "minty fresh medicine" :)). Fortunately, he would take them both no problem. That would make it so he would eventually poop every couple of days. In a diaper, no potty.
HOWever, even THAT didn't always work. He once went 10 DAYS. !!!! He also went a week or other various longer times, that would cause him to get so blocked up. Then we'd have to pull out the suppositories, and it was awful. Awful having to put them in, awful watching him cry while doing his little crampy poop dance that he'd always end up doing. But the suppositories were the only things that worked in those instances.
The issue? Control. It's just something he could control. So he did, and then it hurt, so it scared him, so he'd hold it. That began a really vicious cycle for him. What solved it? Time. Seriously. When he seemed to finally get to a point where he wasn't fighting it anymore, he was eventually ready to be bribed to sit on the potty (mind you, he was pee-trained for the potty at 3 with no problems). That was probably around 3.5.
Hang in there, talk to your dr. about what to give her so it stays soft, and um, buy some suppositories. I'm sorry you are having to deal with this!!!
Bribery? Yes, I know, it's totally against parenting rules but screw the rules - they suck anyway! My boys would do anything for a quarter (not now, but earlier on) or a car or a cookie or a sucker(lollipop?).
Guilt? "You're going to be a big sister and a big girl! and big girls poop in the potty".
Happiness? "WoW! Look at you poop like a BIG GIRL! Hurray!!! Way to go! Did you see the size of that poop?! That was HUGE!" (yes, I'm aware I talked about the size of the poop. I have boys and here it's a big deal"
Good luck. And yes, parenting sometimes sucks.
No advice; dood, I'm almost in the same boat as her, though it hasn't been 8 days for me.
Kyle used to have this problem when he was little and I swore by the combination of raisins, straight apple juice, and a playground. He wouldn't run around and play at home, but he couldn't resist at a playground, and he'd poop every time. :D
M was also a very reluctant pooper for a long time. Let me suggest chocolate covered prunes as one possible strategy. Candy mixed with laxative properties, can you say YUM?? We also did occasional enemas with a snot sucker and the ever popular glycerin suppositories.
Only sympathy from me. Nothing is as fun as digging a petrified poop out of a screaming kid's butt.
I know, it's totally against parenting rules but screw the rules - they suck anyway! My boys would do anything for a quarter, but thanx for sharing.
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